Hi, I am new to this on-line therapy/talk sessions. I got this website from my father-in-law's girlfriend. Anyhow, here is my story...my husband and I married nearly 17 months ago- he was going on deployment and we new if we didn't get married that he would be sent to a different duty station after deployment. The only way to stay together was to get married. So we did and we were doing well with the long distance via letters, phone calls, etc. and then we met at the 6 month mark and things were different. very very different. I kept asking him to talk to me and he just kept telling me that things were fine and it was the stress of the trip. He has been back home now for about 5 weeks and we have been having a rough time trying to figure out what is going on in his head. He keeps telling me that everything is fine and that he doesn't know. Then about 3 wks ago I came home to an argument and him telling me that he can't do this anymore. He left. The next night I came home after work only to find him gone with a letter on my computer. I can't believe this is happening. My father spoke to him and he couldn't give my dad a reason why and he told his best friend that there is no hope and that our journey has come to an end. He feels like he has lost the passion and the spark in the relationship. My father and I don't believe his story and my father told him that he needs more time to think. We are not to talk to eachother for about a month or so while he figures this out. He has moved out into a room in an apartment. I haven't called him in a week and it feels like a month. I am frustrated and feel betrayed and used and tossed aside. I want to take control of this situation. In my culture, you don't just walk away from a marriage this easily. I am baffled and I want him to be a man and stay behind his committment. Thanks for listening.
