Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

He is at his parents house right now because they wanted to "talk" to him. (Gosh, I hope I am still in their good graces!)
I kinda wish his mom would have called to talk to me, but that's okay.

His sister and I don't really get along, but I will give her major props for this: when he told her she said that he should do what he needed to do; but absolutely NOT get involved with someone else. That if he really *does* want to figure out what is going to make him happy, then he needs to do that on his own. (Go sis'!) He seemed to heed her advice, but you never can tell what will happen if he is actually presented with the opportunity.

I don't think the physical affection is going to continue. It prompts relationship talks and makes us feel "funny" since we aren't fully together. (Says I, now that the "edge" is off. Talk to me when he and I are horny again. )

He said that he feels like things are boring and stale. I said that I totally agree (because I do). I said that I thought we both had the same vision for what we would want for the marriage, but because we have become so polarized that we are defending the abstract instead of finding a solution. (I give him the example of Wife wanting to go out more, Husband wanting to stay home; W approaches H and complains that she wants to do more things(abstract) and H resists. Finally, W explains that she means just go to city once a month and H totally thinks that is fine. (Finding solution.) He agreed with my thought.

Here is something I forgot to mention earlier-he said that he thinks we could have an awesome relationship,if he would put in the time and energy; what he is trying to figure out is *why* he doesn't want to. (I still think it's because of him remembering when I was thyroid impaired.) He did acknowledge that I am totally not that person and he "doesn't hold it against me...well, maybe a little".

I am keeping my fingers crossed that his parents impart some piece of wisdom that makes him say "what the heck was I thinking??? I must have been crazy!!!!" But, somehow I doubt that will happen. And even if it did, I am not sure how we get out of the rut we are in right now.

And, all of what I write is EXACTLY why I can't understand how it is we are in this position.