I'm excited for you with your new practice. I hope it's going well.
Wow.. your daughter must be so excited. Seems like she has a very bright future in front of her, most likely on some kind of stage! She's really talented.
Hope things improve for your H's startup soon.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
H's startup is crashing big time - 50/50 chance he will quit within a week, depending on who the investors pick for new CEO. But - he has a big safety net of his old job to fall back on, and he's had "an adventure" (that's what you say about a backcountry climbing or ski trip gone horribly wrong!!!!).
Hi there Ellie - Congrats on your new patients. I envy them, they are lucky to have your special touch! Let us know if you ever set up an online arm to your practice
Good luck staying the course while H makes his career transition.
Yes, congratulations on your burgeoning practice! Is your professional success doing anything to improve H's attitude? Is there any chance that the investors will pick someone who H would like to see as CEO? Someone who can make the company work well?
Has he spoken to anyone back at his old job about returning?
Thanks,
Joe
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Is your professional success doing anything to improve H's attitude?
Ummm...probably more so when I start actually making a profit. Right now, I'm still in the red. My starting costs were pretty mild, however, and I do expect to finish the year with a profit of some sort. A year from now, my income should be fine.
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Is there any chance that the investors will pick someone who H would like to see as CEO?
We'll know tomorrow; odds are 50:50 they'll either keep the current CEO, or they'll pick the guy my H refuses to work under. If they pick the other guy, H will quit tomorrow. If they keep the current CEO, H will still leave by the end of the year unless the other guy is effectively neutralized. H will only stay long-term if some pretty radical changes happen.
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Has he spoken to anyone back at his old job about returning?
Yes, he has a lunch planned this week. Depending on the day, H either wants to return to his old job, start a new company, or buy property in Nicaragua and become an innkeeper!!! I tried pointing out to him that A) we need him to bring in an income and B) I'm not starting a practice just to leave for Nicaragua in a year!
Besides, he'll just have to wait on his new MLC until I'm actually earning an income and until our D has finished college (since he got her interested in a very pricey private college that she now has her heart set on attending).
I hate it when he comes up with these things that are TOTALLY not economically feasible, then makes ME be the bad guy who has to point that out. We're already in the hole from the paycut he took to join this startup.
Overall, though, I think he's just gotten so tired of the politics and the workload of this startup that if he went back to his old job, the aggravations there would seem mild by comparison.
Oh - and Joe - re: your post on your thread - DOLLMAKING???? You DEFINITELY have to guard against giving up too much of yourself in your next R. (Of course, you could probably find a woman with very similar interests if you came out here to ComicCon!) Hmmmm... a novel set at ComicCon - what do you think?
My S15 has been a "picky reader". Although he reads well and quickly, he seldom finds books that he's interested in reading (this kills me, as an avid reader myself). Doesn't like sci-fi or many typical "boy" genres, thinks he's too old for Harry Potter, etc. etc. Add to this he's very physical and social, and he just doesn't read much.
Well, a couple of nights ago he actually came out to the bookshelf looking for something to read - and settled on The Catcher in the Rye! Finished that quickly, of course, since it's a short book.
I told him he could go on Amazon and pick out some more books (hoping to make the most of this temporary surge in reading interest).
So - here's the wish list he left me: - Big Sur (Kerouac) - Basic Writings of Nietzsche - Brave New World
I hate it when he comes up with these things that are TOTALLY not economically feasible, then makes ME be the bad guy who has to point that out.
Is he really "making" you be the bad guy? Do you HAVE to point out the economic "infeasibility" immediately? If you did not point out the economic "infeasibility", would he be researching property in Nicaragua tonight and putting bids in on property by the end of the week? Or is he just voicing "wishes" out loud and talking more from emotion/frustration?
We're already in the hole from the paycut he took to join this startup.
Do I detect a bit of resentment? Be aware of that because it could spill out easily in a passive aggressive way if you are not careful. P/A behavior is not healthy for either of you.
Did he make that decision alone and without your support or did the two of you talk it over and did you give him your support for that decision?
In hindsight this startup may not have worked out but that does not mean it was not a worthwhile experience. From my experience I have learned as much from terrible management as from great management. While it has been frustrating, it is/was a worthwhile experience for your H and you!
I am so glad to hear your start-up is going well. What are you doing for yourself to keep your burn-out odds low?
Take care
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
- H has made the decision this week to make a drastic change in his career. It's scary and a little risky (a new start-up company) but also potentially very rewarding, and gives him an opportunity to use some of his talents that were frustrated in his old position. I've told H that I totally support him in whatever he chooses to do.
Too late to edit my last post but I did find this quote from you on the first post on your last thread.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
