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Well I am officially a grandpa at age 36. I am a very proud grandpa! I was in the delivery room w/my wife and d20's boyfriend(not the father). Everything went great. I didnt go to lamaz class with her but, I did most of the coaching, holding her hand, counting through contractions. Twards the end I could barely count, I was almost crying I was so happy.

I wanted to hug my wife when he was born, she wasnt recipicating my feelings. This reminded me how real our problems are.
I slept in our bed w/her on opposite sides this weekend, because of company visiting.

Delivery night we where trying to sleep in delivery room, waiting for daughter to dialate. I heard my wifes phone vibrate, I didn't want it to beep in a minute, so I picked it up opened it and yes another text from om, I didnt read it, I just hit ok and put her phone back.

At hospital today my w was beside me on couch we where talking to d20. She reaches over and touches my arm w/one finger like she was wiping something off or checking a pimple. I looked at my arm, nothing there, and said what do i have something on my arm. She said no. I think she forgot what she was doing.

After hospital today I started making barbeques. She asked if I cared if she go on the computer, she said she didnt want to go anywhere. I said I didnt care(really I was screaming on the inside). I did bang a few things around while I was cooking. She did say she was worried about me peeking ofer her shoulder, I said I wouldn't do that anyway.

After reading ohio_mark thread I wonder if i should be doing more to be less coopertive. I think blocking his number is extreme and wouldn't help matters.

How do you give her space living in the same house and be less cooperative to my benefit? Without pushing her further away. I feel I am not doing enough to be difficult but fear being defficult will make her want me out of the house more.

I was at the drug store looking for carbon paper for a project last week. I saw a nice fridge notepad I new she would like, I didnt buy it(no more gifts). Then we went in the same store this weekend for baloons, I bought it w/out her seeing it and put it on the fridge where our old one was that ran out. The next day she thanked me for it. I didnt say anything else about it.

Theo,

I havent slept in our room for at least a couple months. This is before I read DR and was doing all the wrong things. At this point I dont know if I should push trying to sleep in there w/her.

You read alot of poetry? I havn't but I am interested in it. I don't do alot of reading and don't want something over my head. Could you recomend a poetry book. In movies they talk of Witman, i yeally dont know where to start.

thanks everyone,

PS I'M A GRANDPA!!!!