No, not at all. I don't think that anyone would have that impression. We've all been through emotions that have pretty much turned us upside down and inside out and backwards. My guess is that the typical poster on this board will see two people in very intense pain: two people who ought to be together but who just can't seem to bridge that distance. Nobody's going to see monsters where no monsters exist. My guess is that many people here will tend to strongly identify with your ex.
I feel a strong sympathy for both of you. You are both good people.
Do you have a copy of Divorce Remedy? There's another title others swear by: The Five Love Languages (I think that's right).
