I've thought about the whole 'friendship' thing. While I do agree that being good friends, if not best, is a healthy part of any relationship, I do not wish to be downgraded to merely a friend to my H. I don't think that would be very good for me in the long term. So I don't know what I'm going to do about it. Nothing for the time being. I do not wish to sound selfish; I'm just trying to think of what's best for my sanity. My H made me feel like the smallest, least desirable person alive when I discovered his affair. And it wasn't anything he said; just the act of cheating was enough. I have so much healing to do.
I totally understand this. I just posted about this on someone's thread the other day.
I think W2S has great advice up there on patience. Keep living for you and let your H see what an amazing woman you are.
