CVA - Thread 2, Hold mode

[Not Much Left]

Thanks again Sandi
I am at the airport ready to leave town again! I am seriously thinking about stopping all this and let the chips fall where they may in terms of work. I dont HAVE to leave and in my mind my being out of town "counted" in terms of giving her space. Apparently not so why do it.

Nomo mentions on on schedule for the kids, what do you think? My prediction of that talk will be, why? Why do we need on on schedule, things are going fine...and generally i would agree. In terms of taking the kids somewhere, there is always somone who does not want to go and i dont want to force any of them to go with me somewhere. I feel like i have on on pt no pot win sitch in this regard

- wife virtually says nothing of consequence to me ever
- kids are torn
- ANY of my efforts to actually GAL that might include the kids will be met with resistance and "he is trying to control again"
- you are right, i am "a doer" i cant just sit around. i dont know how to just do "other stuff" that doesnt include my kids or W-pathetic i know.

How do u explain what i viewed as on on change in her approach after her getting back from on on trip with her best friend? You say she feels pressured and is just being polite by letting me be ther for the kids, but she in her non-verbal subtle way was open to sitting with me after kids went to bed and being around me to watch tv/movie vs before that trip. She would just say pt no pot. Her friend urgwd her to "take the blinders off". Was she doing that as on on test to see how she felt?

Let me know what u think
Thanks

Sandi - BTW, i am back in good shape after the 2 yr decline from the neck thing. I have been working out since this started knowing what it would do to me physically, remember i have been herew befoe!