H coming today, what do I do when he asks how I am

[SallyM]

nikki, yeah, the note was snotty. I know that now, but I did it weeks ago, and yeah, he saw it. didn't say anything. I've done a few snotty things even though I knew they weren't working for me. I couldn't seem to help it. now I am doing better. as for manipulating him, I'm sure you are right, too. Its so hard to think in terms of what I want, though, with not caring about how it affects him/us. I'll get there, I'm sure, but not there yet.

thanks, mike, for your input. I'm going to go ahead and put it back up. doubt he'll mention it to me, trust me, we have a bigger elephant in the room (I opened his corporate card statement last week, not something I usually do, and oh yes there was stuff there re: OW. bad stuff. but I didn't say a word. I shouldn't have opened it because I'm not ready to do anything about it...aka D...so I just put it, opened, on his desk. he knows I opened it, but hasn't said a word...yep, big elephant. lol). and I won't mention it to him. he will notice the picture though, eventually, and hopefully it will just let him know I am still open to fixing the marriage (have told him verbally, but not a bad thing to have more info out there) to go along with me GAL.

at least I hope its the right decision