I have been "suggesting" to H that we should at least try and do some sensate focusing, since it has been two weeks since we last saw the ST and he wanted us to do it twice in the first week.
We were watching a show on TV and it was getting pretty late. I quietly and very calmly said "I guess we aren't going to do the SF tonight huh". H reached over, and took my hand and said "I don't feel comfortable doing that, it doesn't feel natural to me. We need to do things our own way, in our own time". He said he felt like it was forced and going "too fast" for him. That is when he suggested instead of the SF perhaps we could just go to bed in the nude - Yeee Haww - I am all for that!
So that's what we did and it was great! He did get an erection before we fell asleep and again this morning when were cuddling and I asked if he would like me to take care of him - he declined saying he wanted to wait until he got the blood results back and we "would take it from there". I don't know if that is because he is concerned about the results or just knows that I am and it might hinder our progress if it is in the back of my mind.
But he did suggest we should be doing that every night until we can "get back to normal" so I am one pretty happy camper today
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
