I have been busy spending time with D3 and GAL that I haven't had time to respond. I have to admit that today I was thinking about things and I had to quickly change my train of thought and enjoy life and the positives in my life.
I picked up D3 on Friday from my W's office. D3 gets into the car and I am asking how her day was and what she ate for lunch. D3 was in a good mood. D3 then says, 'daddy, I have to tell you something that mommy said last time. She said that she loves you and she wants us to be a happy family'. I was so excited inside, but I chose to not pay too much attention to what D3 said. I don't know where D3 would get this statement from. I don't know if it is true or not.
Any way, we had a good time swimming and spending time with my sister and her family from out of town. I drop off D3 and leave quickly because I had plans on Saturday night. I was looking nice, I might add = )...
I get a call from my W right now. She said that she meant to ask me a question the other day. I said, what's up. W said that her extended family is having a reunion up north this weekend and she was hoping that D3 could spend the night on Wednesday night and she could take D3 up north for the weekend to set up their tent and camp. I told my W that this is a last minute request and to allow me some time to think about this because I have plans for myself and D3.
I thought about it for a little bit and made a decision to hit her with reality. I have been giving her WHATEVER she asks for and she continues to be spoiled. I called her back and told her that this is not going to work and I'll pick up D3 on Saturday. W suggested that D3 spend the night on Friday and she could take her up north on Saturday. I told my W that I already have plans to go to a baseball game on Friday. W starts complaining, what a baseball game is more important than being with D3. I responded no, I had made plans already because I knew that I wouldn't see D3 on Friday. W then hangs up.
Foolishly, I call back. D3 answers and says, 'Daddy, I want to go camping'. I responded with daddy wishes that he could go with you, but he can't. W grabs the phone and says, you are crazy and hangs up. I call back and tell my W that we don't need to fight over this and that this sucks, but this is what we have to do from here on out. W said that she gets 7 days and she is going to take her because she has only used 3 days taking her to Disneyland. I told my W that doc is just a draft, it is not official. W then told me that I (me) am taking D3 to Hawaii for a 7 day cruise and I said, yes I am. W got all upset and handed the phone to D3.
I restated to my W that I have always been trying to work with her and have been fair. W said that I have not. I told her that I didn't have a problem with D3 going to Disneyland or switching visit dates around so that she could take D3 to family birthday parties or functions.
To me it just seems that W is a spoiled brat. She is mad because she is not getting her way. She acts like this when she doesn't have control. I took control of what I want without letting her tell me what to do! I just don't get the whole attitude thing either. She called all friendly and nice. And then when I tell her no, she blows up. Then she tries the guilt trip thing on me because I am going to a baseball game? Come on? I DO have a life. She is always pointing out what is wrong with me to make me feel bad or feel guilty. I don't get her.
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OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
