I see the point and I think you are both giving good advice here. It's not like I was out partying or whatever. Fact is I hardly go out at all and if I don't I usually have the kids in tow. If anything I make sure he gets to go out (with his buddies) while I stay home.
If you're feeling run-down and overwhelmed, playing the martyr is a good way to make things worse. Trade off nights with him... you get away from the kids sometimes. And find a babysitter you trust and get away with him, if he's not too far gone to want to go fun places with you.
He wants to know how you're going to ramp up your sex drive and keep it where it needs to be over the long term? We're wondering that too. Running yourself ragged isn't going to do it. You need exercise, time away from the kids, and time alone with your partner, and if you don't get it, you'll be too tired to meet his needs or yours. If you do get it, you've got a much better shot at being an enthusiastic, energetic, and skillful player in everyone's favorite contact sport over the long term.
Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 07/15/0707:53 PM.
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