Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

Update
well, i did end up texting him
"I'm fired up" If he would have responded last night I probably would have told him to cut crap and get his butt home. Which actually might have helped. (You'll know why when you read the end of my post.)

he did come home last night and this morning he came downstairs and said "You were "fired up", huh?"
Longish story short-Booty call.

After that conversation on R; he does think about me, but he thinks that he needs a full break to really get his perspective. Right now, because we still see each other daily he doesn't think the reality has hit home.

He said that he is not looking to go have sex; he would only do that if he was "serious" with someone, but that's not even what he is necessarily looking for.

We can't continue like this and the only way for us to have a true fresh start is to have the break.

I am frustrated because a good portion of our marriage I was sick with an extremely low thyroid.So, as he reflects on things, that is what will come to mind- instead of the major changes I have made since starting thyroid medication. (I can tell he is thinking this way just from some of the stuff he said today where he would say something negative from the distant past and I had something positive to refute it from the not-so-distant past.)

He said something interesting- that he wants someone that will say "look, you wanna be with me, you're gonna not be doing XYZ" and I let him get away with him having XYZ and it made me appear needy and not independent. I agree. He is right. Now I feel like I can never say that to him without him thinking that I am "just saying it".