when to initiate sex after abstinence

[needlove]

Hi. Thanks for turning me on to those discussions. They do help.

My H and I have been emotionally distant and polite to each other for at least 3 months. We just started talking more about our sex issue and his feelings being changed in the past week or so.

I don't believe there to be an OW, but my insecurities keep popping up. As a 2ndW, I can honestly say I've never known him to cheat in his prior relationships. However, I looked at his cell and noticed one listing called "important number" I'm still debating calling it or not.

H had a car accident yesterday (rear ended). Not far from home. Luckily there doesn't seem to be any injury. Made me realize how short life actually is. I don't think anyone wants to receive a call like that. Led me to give him a quick peck and say that I loved him before I left for work today. I don't know if that was the right thing to do or not either. H just nodded and turned his check for the kiss.

I may have to take a page out of CM's thread and just inititate. See where it leads...the fear of rejection is strong.