You husband sounds like he is a pretty domineering person. There is more to fix in this relationship than just getting back together. From your story it sounds like you take punishment after punishment from him. Just my point of view, but that doesn't sound healthy to me.
Trust is a decision. (They teach you that at Retrouvaille.) You cannot make him trust you. He has to decide to trust you and keep making that decision every day. Your trustworthy actions will help, don't get me wrong. But the kind of paranoia that he feels will not be calmed simply by your actions. He needs to decide to trust you.
Retrouvaille is comprised of the weekend working on communication skills, and then 6 follow-up sessions, which are just as important. I have heard of a lot of people who did not finish the follow-up sessions and then went back to their old ways. The program takes work on your part. It is not a magic treatment or an incantation. You need to put time and effort into it. But it can take your marriage from the misery stage to a happy, loving relationship. And that is where we all want to be.
