Ok. I can only answer from my point of view. Had to back away for a second and think about it. I will be nice.

What would it take for me to accept my WAW back?

Its been 3 months of seperation for me now. I get angry about what has been done to me, and why I am here. But I do miss her and want her to come back. Although I would have a hard time if she just came waltzing back in and said, "here I am, lets just forget this happened. (You can kiss my butt now.)"

What would it take?

In the 3 months we have been apart I have came to some realizations.
I realize that I did alot of things to push my wife away. I was not there for her when she needed me. I did not listen to her when she needed me to listen to her. I did not hold her when she needed me to hold her. I did do alot to fail her and our marriage.

I also realized that I was not the only person that Ef'ed up our marriage. The things I realized above, could also be said on her part too.

What would it take?

If she walked in and said she wanted to come back. I would like to see a genuine interest in making a better relationship than we had before. One where we both could grow and also grow together.

When she left she did a very good job at pointing out all of the areas of our marriage that I Ef'ed up. I would like to hear some admission on her part on her misgivings.

I would like to hear, "I am sorry that things came to this, lets work TOGETHER at making our marriage right"

If there was a 1 night fling during the seperation, and it was something that chances of me finding out were slim to none. I dont want to hear about it. If there was an affair, it be better to (even though extremely painful) to hear it from her, then to find out later when I thought we were rebuilding things. Along those lines, I would NEED to hear that it was over and done with. A sorry would go a long ways. But I would probably need some time to digest this. If I get angry and slam doors, or walk out, the best thing to do would be to give me space now. An ego stroke would go a long ways to, something along the lines of "you are still the best I ever had"

I would work hard at making things right, but I would also be watching closely for changes and willingness in her too.

I have to admit I wish that my WAW had your attitude right now.
I got to go........