The books I refered to on womensinfidelity.com is about female sexuality and the way society has looked at the male and female with a double standard. Very, very informative. It is mostly about women going through stages of being unfaithful....be in emotionally or going on through to physically. Whey do I recommend this book even if the wife has not been unfaithful? Because in MLC, I think it is just a matter of time that the WAW, MLC, unfaithfulness.....it all starts to blend together.
A WAW has needs that have not been met and she will begin to look to some person or some thing to fill those needs. A woman is like a flower and if her ego has been fed and she has been given security....she will bloom and flourish. If she has been neglected, she will wilt and dry up. That is when she gets desparate and starts looking for help. She is very vulnerable to EA from the next guy that sweet-talks her. She is starving for this ego food and will get addicted very quickly....going back for more and more until she is in big trouble.
So, that is why I recommend that the H and the W read these two books. It helped me more than I can describe. I was so close turning an EA to a PA that I was going to meet the OM as soon as I recovered from my surgery in six weeks. After reading the second book on stage 3 and 4, I knew I would be lost for sure if I went farther in the EA affair. So, even though I have a long, long road to travel yet, I was able to get off that fence of not knowing what to do and get out of the "limbo" stage. That is an awful, awful place to be. That is the stage that wives walk away. It would help the husbands know what women are feeling during these stages in their ordeal.
I hope I answered your question.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
