forever21's journey still continues.....

[forever21]

Hi Ian. How are you? Thanks for your thoughts here.

Try not to think of those things as unattainable, camping during the week, 3 weeks off, etc... they will be available down the road once you get yourself established and develop some clientele. I know you are going to be a great realtor and once you hit your stride, you will be able to dictate your own pace and schedule.

Thanks. I know I'll be able to do that, but it's just a little tough to wrap my mind around when I see other realtors not getting a lot of time off. I've no doubt I will make my life great.

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I said that'd be good sometime, I think it'd be good to be friends. What was I thinking on that one?


I found that interesting???????

I don't know that I'll really want to be friends with him, but I really don't take things personally right now and especially don't want him to think I do. I don't think he deserves that from me. I choose not to give him that power over me. So, I said "what was I thinking on that one?" in good fun. I can laugh about it, and admit that I might not always feel like I want to be friends with him or give him that sense of relief. He probably doesn't deserve that either, but I feel better if I'm not pressuring him. Hope that makes sense.

Also was a bit thrown off by this one:


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He said the 16th is coming up (Monday is our anniversary). I just said yeah. He said it was gonna be a tough day. Oh please! I just said "Is it?"

two questions on this one, why did you ask him if it is hard on him when he said it is? Second, did he answer you and did you tell him it would be hard on you?

I didn't really ask, I "said" is it. I shouldn't have put the question mark there. I was just listening to him, and not letting him put that on me.... as I wasn't agreeing that it was going to be a hard day but it seemed like that was what he was trying to get from me. I wasn't gonna let him put words in my mouth, and allow him to feel like I was going to be having such a tough day on our anniversary. I really feel he just wants me to be in that place... just where he'd like, waiting in the wings for him. Not gonna do it. To answer your second question... nope, he didn't answer and because of that statement of mine he didn't ask me if it was going to be hard on me. I think I did a good job at giving him the impression it wasn't going to be.

So I am wondering, just from your point of view, do you think maybe you have gotten to a place that is so comfortable that maybe you don't have to think about everything you say to him when you are talking now?

I still think about what I'm saying when I talk to him, but I'm not so worried about saying the wrong thing. I know that I may not have said the most perfect thing for the sitch, but I don't have these strong regrets like I used to. I was still a bit nervous and know I could've handled that more ideally, but I'm fine with how it went. I accept myself.

Thanks again, Ian. It's wonderful to have the support of my DB friends! I am doing great, and my life is gonna be great.