Ok vaction time officially is underway. Today there was a company sponsered picnic at a water/amusement park. I took my daughter there. We rode several roller coasters, the first one was really wild. Underground and stuff. Then in a massive wave pool, the waves got to like 12 feet high. Was really cool. And my oh my, some very nice scenery too boot.

Well there was also a company sponsered lunch provided, the meal was really not so good.......but it was free!! We were there from 11 am until 9 pm.

At the lunch there sits my brother in law. He has a daughter that is like 2 years older than mine, and they are close. Spent the better part of the day just hanging with them.

Soon as I got the chance I said to him, "look, I dont want to put you in an uncomfortable situation. I am here to mainly have fun with my daughter. I do not intend to pump you for information, I will do my best not to put you in an uncomfortable place. If I start to, just steer the conversation I will get it"
He did say that he did not know to much, at that I answered, I imagine that you do know more than I, as I dont know anything about what is going on with her really. Left it at that.

Did have a pretty good day just hanging with him and letting the kids play. A few times I caught myself saying things, that I dont think he felt comfortable with........like money is tight now, I am trying real hard not to loose the house. He did at one point volunteer that he yelled at his sister about leaving after just buying the house.

I felt him also steer the conversation away at one point, when I did mention I was hoping that me and his sister would work things out eventually.

All in all, I feel I did do pretty good. It was good to hang out and mostly just shoot the breeze. It was also good not to be shunned by a member of her family. I dont think I caused him to feel conflicted. The one thing that I never did thoughout the day was to pump him, meaning I never once asked him any direct questions. I never put him on the spot like that. Yeah I danced around a bit, and if he was to start talking I am sure I would have been all ears. But he was not very forth comming. Just as well I suppose.

The hardest part was not allowing myself to ask any direct questions. The biggest one I really wanted to throw out there was,
"Is she seeing someone?" But I thought this through.....I did not want to do that to him. Nor did I really want to know I guess. I mean, here it was a day going pretty well. I mean if he would have answered with a believable "no" well then I would have been happy, and hopeful. But if the answer was anything but a no.....or silence, or a subject change........ I asked myself do I really want to hear this today? And Ef up a perfectly good day? Not only for myself, but for him.....my kid? I mean an answer other than a no, I dont think I woulda been able to keep having fun with my child. And also......do I really want to Ef up the rest of my vacation? Probably the rest of the summer........

So I guess I will just keep my head in the sand for awhile longer. Unwilling to find out just yet....... I cant change it anyhow.
Am I being stupid or naive?