New question. I'm at homw with my Mom right now in Florida on vacation but I am going back to Texas on Thursday so I really need to have a plan for going back. It has really been so much easier here kind of like getting away from it for awhile but I digress...

We have a C session the Tueday I get back. Can I still do 180's (not really sure what that means for me yet) and GAL and still go to C sessions with him? I moved out of the house b/c I couldn't handle being there alone and one of the stipulations was that he owed me counseling. 10 years together..I told him hw owed me one hour a week. He said he will at least go once and we'll see after that. So my question is that I know I need to detach, GAL, and do 180's. Can I do these things and still go to counseling once a week?

Also I've just about finished the first book ,Divorcebusting, and a good part of it with the 180's is figuring out what causes arguments and how to avoid them, change your behavior, etc. The problem is H and I never fight. On a day to day basis everything is fine (or was) The only thing we ever argued about was how much he hung out with the guys at a bar. Right now I don't know how much of that he is doing and I don't have a say in it anyway. So the question is, what kind of 180's do you do when you are seperated.

Thanks for the help. You have no idea what a help and support this site is for me. Well I nevermind that I guess you probably do.

M:29 H:30
Married: 8 years (together 10)
6/14/07- Seperated

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7