Well I found this thread that I made a few days ago when I thought my last one had locked. Well we made it to SD safely and enjoying the kids a great deal.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Yesterday I ending up going to the funeral, the wife called me at last minute and told me to get ready she would pick me up. The funeral was done very well and actually more than family showed up. This is the first time in months that I was introduced by her as "this is my husband, 789", it usually just "this is 789" so that was a nice change. Were ever I sat or was standing she was always nearby, but never let me get to close. Finally was able to get out of town about 4 hours late, but came and gave me a hug before leaving, nice to leave on that note. Didn't make it all the way to our destination, so stopped at IL's house to spend the night, they were not there and took a late nite swim with the two wild kids. Finished the drive early morning and went directly to the beach. The two had a great time playing in the surf, I only got to watch, but had fun. So vacation is in full swing and it is going to be nothing but fun for the next week.
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M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
They are set in the ways of old people, they do what they want. Well kids had a blast all day, did not go to bed till after midnight, hopefully they sleep in. Son was all excited after calling his mom tonight, he had to let me know that she said she missed me. I admit it feels good to hear that, but I wish she would not tell him these things, it gets his hopes up so much when she is probably just trying to make it sound good. That is just my take, she should not tell him anything that makes him get excited or depressed about the situation, am I wrong?
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
It'd be nice to hear that from my H. It's probably best to be nuetral with what you tell the kids. Not put them in the middle or get their hopes up. Maybe she says things like that knowing it'll get back to you?
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I have to agree with SH. Kids at that age will tell the other parent things like that. I know my daughter (8) tells me things that my W will say to her in order for me to hear it.
But it should be said directly, not using kids as a messenger service, or even trying to get their hopes up (as well as our hopes).
If they miss us, they miss us. Just acknowledge it and leave it as that. I think it would have more meaning if things in a R were going a lot better.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
