I definitely would NOT share the DB or DR book with her.

I have yet to see a sitch where it did any good, but I've seen many of them where it backfired, big time. It comes across as pushing her to see it the "right" way (your way) - and will also likely make her see your changes as manipulation rather than real, lasting changes.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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