Hi, Johnny. Thanks for the thanks when you visited my thread.
You are in a helluva sitch. I almost imposed my blind mother on my wife a few years back, without even thinking what an awful brew that would have cooked up. I was really uncaring about her feelings -- was just going to impose a mil on my W and expect her to drink up the consequences. I even put a deposit down on a rental house with three bedrooms.
Well, now that I think about it, that episode was an example of how much I took my wife for granted.!
Y'know, I think it is OK in theory to take one's mate for granted because that is the sine qua non of marriage -- each mate feels that the other always will be there! But it reality that attitude can be a killer! I think wives always need more attention and care than the H is inclined to give.
My WAW is now living alone, and she told our C that she gets "lonely" some times, but she has an OM in a distant city whom she is pining over and is now living her "own" life.
She is a singer, and she is practicing an aria from "Orfeo ed Euridice" (Gluck). She tearfully told our C that when she sings the aria, which mourns the eternal loss of a spouse, she thinks of me!
Ain't that sumpin'? It's these rare remarks of affection that throw me off balance. At the same C session, though, she delved up some stuff I had never known about and threw it is my face! Well, man, I had tears running down my cheeks, and I had to ask her for a hug in the hallway after the session. She obliged.
We then went out for lunch, and when we hugged for a long time in the parking lot, she was crying!
Yecchh. Boy, do I need that Buenos Aires break!.I'm sure I won't get into this kind of emotional turmoil with my daughter! (She's the one who invited me there.) (More info here.)
As for your own sitch, I think you are going to have to find the spunk to say, "It's either Mom or me, kid!" Well, not is such a peremptory way, but kindly.
Is there any indication that a written communication, tenderly put, would do more good than that continued verbal jousting?
