Had a great conversation with a guy yesterday who has dealt with a lot of divorce in his profession, and he shared a little tid bit that we probably all know but for some reason it hit home.
This is not my event to control. I'M READY to get back to my family, my W is not. I feel GOOD about things, she does not. I can see our family together again, she cannot (this is the hardest thing for me to understand, but there it is). This is HER rodeo! She is in control. It is very difficult, it doesn't seem right, but that's not for me to decide, it's for her to decide. Unfortunately we can't do this as partners right now, but if she decides we can, I'm ready.
In the meantime, continual personal preparation is key, I just need to make some new friends.
All the "friends" I thought I had up in our neighborhood??? Not a one of them has called me to hang out like we used to or anything. No golf, no lunch - bubkis. Kind of surprising, I thought they were good friends too.
SO, off to the laundromat to see if there are any people who like to mtn bike.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
