Do you feel more comfortable being w/a group of women or men? This sounds like a 'how do I view my masculinity' question or something btu it doesn't matter who I'm with group-wise. I find it a little awkward over a long period to be with these ladies at lunch all the time. I used to be in a great group of guys but when the throat-cutting started, well, that group broke apart...one guy jealous of the other etc. In my work, the type of class your in seems to play a prt as to who you hang with, like the ladies are more 'from the old school' and prefer a down-to-earth guy around instead of a geeky type. I can sort of be both but am more down to earth socially but 'no my sh*t' when it comes to work things when called upon and am quite handy outside of work as well. The ladies seem to dig guys in that category around my workplace. The place is typically scientists etc. I do feel like a rooster in a hen house at times when I stop and look around a nd that freaks me out once in a while that these ladies trust me I think and they really should but what are they up to?
Do you communicate better w/women or men better? I seem to be more able to communicate with men better but I can play the other side quite well also as far as day to day stuff but when women want to talk about periods and having kids etc. well I feel way out of place. They did that on one lunch a couple weeks ago and I vowed to stop going then. I then asked myself 'what am I with THEM' for. With guys, I can talk fishing, computers, cars, planes, to cooking,some office politics, etc. with no trouble at all, and with ladies I can talk food, cooking,husbands, clothes, wives, shopping, shop gossip (but the ladies dont understand office politics too well).
Do you have a problem sleeping at night? at times yes, especially wehn I've had an emotional day where something has not gone as it should or I have a problem to solve.
Do you find your mind racing? Mind racing? constantly. day and night.
Are you easily distracted? yes. very much so. I cannot sit and do one thing unless I force myself but it is quite hard. DO I have ADD or something? It even affects my work. At home, with W and MIL though, her mom is a part time job by herself and I help where and whenever I can. We are working these issues. Therapies are going to be taking place daily here. That is a step in the right direction for sure for her.
ok, so am I stressed or what? I dont spend as much time busting butt to keep wife calm because its nearly impossible to make her happy most of the time. It lasts only a matter of minutes fi we succeed and if one does something for her it is usually not to her standards but we do our best. I do hand out things for son to earn his keep here. He is full time college.He is much easier to deal with than stepson was. Stepson left becuase W was so hard to please. In W's defense though, many tasks around here are ours to do ,married or not so I understand I'd be doing them anyway if I were by myself as would junior. I then get to the point of why the heck am I married then? Well, it was for security and not have to deal with the nightclub scenes mainly back then, then to raise her son and then she gave me a son of my won and it went from there. With them gorwn now, well, I fall back to the original reason I got married to begin with. SHe cannot have any mroe kids since age 25 so I do regret not having another, perhaps a daughter but thats history. So I should be tracking what sets her off and try and remedy that right? Thats what we try to do anyway. She always finds something else needing doing once we finish the one thing and so on.
So, I made a few meals over the weekend for W. I was quite occupied with the weather and basment leaks as was the rest of the state on Saturday. I managed to curl up with her on the couch for a while and watch some tv so that was rare but nice. Sex wise, uh cant remember the last one of them we had and it wasn't on V day either. I dont go into bed ever expecting that.
ok, I'm contemplating making dinner so I need to get at it. Thanks Snods, for your responses.
