Johnny, I don't feel pity for you. From what you've written, it sounds like you are trying your best to help your w out at home. But I wonder if you are showing her, from your body language, that you aren't happy w/doing these things. You are resenting her for not being able to keep up w/everything and also resenting the mil for creating the problems in your home right now. Sometimes we give off vibes when we aren't happy about things and this could be causing some problems between the two of you also. I had forgotten that your son was living at home. Is he a full or part time student at the local college? Is he doing his fair share at home? If he's not, it's time to introduce him to some of the household chores. Now, don't shake your head, if he were out living on his own, he would be doing them. Suggest that he take the trash out every once in a while or drop a load of laundry in the washer/dryer. Every time someone does something, it will make the load a little lighter for all. I'm going to ask you a few questions and you don't have to answer them if they make you uncomfortable. Do you feel more comfortable being w/a group of women or men? Do you communicate better w/women or men better? I noticed the time you posted. Do you have a problem sleeping at night? Do you find your mind racing? Are you easily distracted? Yes, I think I do understand the situation w/the gaggle of women, but I'll know more once you've told me about how your communication skills are w/women and men. I sincerely hope that you'll have a relaxing weekend. You do need a break to think about things and how you will divide and conquer the projects that you have on your plate. Try to find a little balance this weekend between the things that have to be done and what you would like to do for relaxation/fun.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
