Oh, Johnny, I'm not going to let you have it tonight. You've had quite the day. LL gave you some really good suggestions. You see, we women do think and talk a different language from men. The suggestions she gave you are good examples of what we appreciate our spouses doing to help us out. If you do one or even two of them once in a while and not say anything, I bet she would notice and start softening up a bit. You aren't the only one under a lot of stress right now, so is she. I think you need to have a nice chat over coffee in the am and let your w know that you would really like to take her out to dinner alone. That you two haven't spent any time alone for quite a while and would like to catch up on what is going on in her life at work, etc. You may even suggest that you two do this now and say that the three of you will go out another night and make that one family night. Of course, if you really wanted to get her attention, just ask her for a date. You know, the way you used to do when you first met her. That really would get her attention. If one way won't work, try something else. Johnny, you've got to get your w out of the house for a bit so that the two of you can reconnect as h and w, and not as roommates. It's hard when an ill mil is living in the house. It doesn't give either party much privacy. As for the ow, you did the best you could. You may want to consider doing something different at lunch. May I ask a question? Were you the life of the lunch group? Were you the jokester that kept them laughing? I'm just trying to figure out why a gaggle of women would want a man to join their group. If you don't want to share, that's understandable. Don't worry about the way the ow said her farewells this evening. You are now getting way too sensitive every time she says or does something. Relax, you know what you have to do and you'll do it. I'm sure when she returns to her own building, the contact will be less frequent. When the weather gets better, you may want to start walking at lunch or working out at the gym. I sincerely hope that you and your w will get the opportunity to go out to a nice dinner this weekend. Do something really special. Have a nice weekend!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
