Quote: If will do this list thing for another reason and that is fro a matter of record when she says I don't do anything around the house, well, I'll have my proof. Bad idea?
yes, bad idea.
typically when a woman complains that you do nothing around the house...pointing out that you built stairs or cut the lawn or took out the trash is not going to get you anywhere...sometimes you may be overlooking the littlest things...maybe put the dishes in the dishwasher once in a while...make the bed...empty a waistbasket...clean a toilet...etc...just a random thing...but don't point out that you did it...you'd be amazed what a difference these little things can make... I know that I am in a much better mood if h attempts to make the bed after getting out of it as apposed to leaving it unmaid...despite the fact that he plows the driveway...mows the lawn and takes care of the trash...it's all the little things that add up ya know!!
these little tasks that can serve as a source of tention are typically not the problem in a r..they simply add to the problem...
if you could write a list of other things you need and want from w such as time spent alone...etc...what would it look like??
if w could write one too...what do you "think" hers would look like?
yes you do have a household to run and must cooperate at getting tasks done but that is not the extent of a h and w's r.
