Quote: W must not have much regard if she can't see we need alone time.
hmmm...have you mentioned to w that you'd like to spend some time out of the house alone with her??? w could be torn...wanting to spend the time with you but also not wanting to leave her mother unattended.. is there anyone else who could stay at home with mil so that you and w can get some alone time??
I'm sure you are not the only one looking at this..you are just looking from another direction than w...I doubt she's completely oblivious to the state of your r with her.
might I suggest you start a thread in piecing..(gee I sound like a recruit) it is a long road back to a healthy m..you may find comfort and wisdom from the others there who are trying to piece their marriages back together...some with active help from their spouse and some not.
