I believe your very right whapu. The first time through this, pre DB, I learned that. However, comments made by W post bomb #2, indicated that she really didn't regret/repent fully of the first time "down this street". So in my mind I really wonder if that ever will go away. For my own sake and for the sake of my marriage I have to approach it as if it did go away.
Your words were extremely helpful, especially the words of fluidity and family. Those words where also expressed to W by a family friend, who has learned/experience D a couple of times. She re-enforced that no one will treat my kids as well as I do, with as much devotion or effort. So no matter how much she says she loves kids, if she were to D me, she would ruin their lives. That must have been a hard pill to swallow, W prides herself on being a good Mom. What is sad/amazing is that friends life is a very good example of please learn from my mistakes. Although she is moving towards a much better life, THE OLD LUGGAGE DOES NOT GO AWAY, EVER.
Sometimes life is the best teacher. Thanks again for your words, I'm going think quite a bit about them and see if I can follow their recommendations. I'm starting to feel an easier feeling in my M, but it seems to happen better when I do as you have mentioned.
