One of my best friends is a therapist and she's been telling me for 3 months that he is deep in MLC mode (classic, and also that he has narcissic tendencies, lol). I wouldn't say he's depressed, but I would say things did change here 3 years ago when we had the twins. with my singleton, things were really easy...he was an easy baby, I bf and didn't see the need for H to get up in the night to help, etc, etc. With the twins, all bets were off...I was exhausted, he needed to step up, it was just a lot of work. a lot of work. what makes me angry is that now we are at a good stage with them, they are at such a fun age and things are so much smoother/easier. things could have been so much better with H and I. We could have done all the things we've had to put off for a bit. But instead, he's chosen another path. he's giving all his love and attention to the OW, and pushing me into the deep dark past. He's also re-written history to make it seem like there has been no good in the past few years...its bizarre almost. I accept my responsibilities in the weakening of our marriage, but he keeps layering on stuff that never happened, that makes no sense. guessing to justify his own actions, which he prefers to blame me for (yes, I'm to blame for just about everything in life. world hunger? that's me. the national debt? yep, me again. and don't get me started on global warming).
nice to meet you, and sorry you are dealing with crap, too. and yes, lets get that magic formula and get this worked out. lol
another thing we have in common, btw, is that I used to live in CA...grew up there, in fact.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
