I do understand how you feel and felt exactly the same way in the past.
I know your H had shown an interest in meeting other women and just wondered if there was any possibility that he has become involved with someone else. I know it may not be the case but have to say when my H was cheating he was really mean to me constantly picking on everything I did. Made him feel less guilty about cheating cos he could tell himself that he only did it because I was so horrible to him. Even if he's not actually involved with someone else he could be thinking about it and being mean to justify his future desire to go elsewhere.
I can understand that you expected him to help out as you were doing most of the woekfor the blessing ceremony but if he's anything like my H he would assume his only job was to turn up and enjoy the party. The easiest way around this is to say nicely in advance that his job will be to put the chairs and tables away after the event. That way he knows what he's expected to do and you don't resent him doing nothing.
If he gets angry at being asked to help out stay calm and try not to get into the you never do anything to help scenario. You have to figure out how to reach him as he doesn't get it that he's doing anything wrong and probably just feels your being critical and no one likes that feeling.
I made the statement on someones thread that at times I felt like I was treated like the housekeeper but with sex thrown in and the resentments that build from that have a huge impact on desire and Baltoman had been guilty of doing the same thing with his wife. Plus men do sometimes resent that their wife is now a mother and they are no longer no 1 in their wifes life. The fact that you had a great weekend break without the kids would suggest your H is having some of these feelings and it is how to change things that is difficult.
Sorry I can't give you a quick fix it plan but maybe thinking how to approach asking for some help would be a start. Rather than asking him to help more have you tried being specific about something you'd like done and set a time frame. Men are natural problem solvers and if nothing else has worked might be worth a shot.
