It is my opinion that DB is like rehab, the person needs to go to it on their own. There are other tapes and workshops that couples can do together. I left the DR out after hiding it for a few weeks but my H did not pick it up and he got very mistrustful of my 180's. He even pointed out that it did not matter if I got organized, lost weight, ate healthy, etc. He acted like AHA! the jig is up. You can tell her that you are glad that she came into your life and that you will not move towards a divorce. But more importantly, try to avoid any conversation in regards to the relationship or any impending D. Keep all conversations based on anything but the relationship. Don't say anything about love. Remember to act like a beginner. You would not persue a person you just started dating like that. They would run away, so do not do that now.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
