Thanks Delia. Trying to remain calm, but the guilt and fear are the hardest things to deal with (besides missing my W like crazy-all she took was her clothes and I am stuck here with the rest of our life while she tries to block it out from the other side of town as she tries to get over me). The first week I felt like I was talking to a stranger-her entire demeanor had changed, and even the language she used to speak to me. Lately she has been sounding more like herself again, but still is standoff-ish about the whole thing. She has told me recently that she misses me and loves me, but it hasn't led to anything but that. I know if I can get her to come home, we could actually work through our problems with the D Busting and possibly the retreat that Sara mentioned. How much does something like that cost?