Welcome to the board, you will find a lot of warm, friendly people here. The first thing you need to do is chill. Didn't she say something about you can't call her this weekend. So don't call. You say you're reading the books? That's good. Keep reading. Also read everything you can of the resources on this board.
The way I see it you have 2 problems. The most immediate problem is that you have driven her away with your fighting. So the books will give you some principles of how to entice her back. It's a slow process. Be prepared to wait.
If you get past that problem, then you need to work on your communication. I do have a solution for that, but really, it won't help you til you solve problem number one. For info on learning how to communicate effectively and heal your marriage, see http://www.retrouvaille.org.
So start out slow, do your research, read your books, and entice her back if you can.
