Rayanne,
Please don't feel you need to apologize for being blunt. You've told this man exactly what everyone on the MLC Forum has tried to get across to him. He has been advised repeatedly to stop all contact w/the ow and to seek professional help and to focus on his own issues. I don't know what he's hoping to seek here, but sympathy is not one of the feelings that I have for him right now.

Johnny,
As I stated on the MLC thread, you are the one that is initiating contact w/the ow, not the other way around. From what you've printed here on this thread and on your most recent posting on the MLC thread, you are the culprit for keeping the contact going. You have been advised repeatedly to leave the ow alone and focus on yourself and seek professional help. The ow has no real interest in you except to be a "casual" friend. Here you are posting on the other thread, giving people the impression that you are so proud of yourself for not emailing the ow for four days. Again, you've pointed the finger right back to yourself as the initiator/pursuer. Leave the ow alone. She's married as well as yourself. If you want to go out and play the singles game, divorce your w first. Even if you move out and are legally separated, you are still committing adultery in the eyes of the legal system in the state of Maryland. My friend, you are playing games and you are going to lose big time if you continue to play them. For some unknown reason, I believe I know who you are because your story sounds so familiar w/a little bit of fantasy tied in. I will only say this once--seek professional help, work on yourself and your marriage and leave the ow alone. She doesn't see you as a potential suitor. I always knew there was more to your story than you were willing to share over on the MLC Forum and you have proved my instincts were correct. Now, Johnny, I suggest you set yourself down and really think hard about what you want to do w/your life. If you don't want to be married any longer, then do something about it, but quit diddling around on your w!

Fellow posters, before you really get taken in by Johnny, please read both the current thread and older thread that he has written over on the MLC Forum. You will then begin to understand just how confused this man really is. I believe he is living in a world of fantasy w/a tinge of the real world peeking through, typical mlc behavior. He is looking for people to validate his feelings as to why he needs to seek women outside of the marriage and he wants our approval for this. Also, please remember that there are two sides to every story and while he may be in mlc, his perceptions of his life, marriage and home life may not be as bad as he is making them out to be.

Have a nice day.

Last edited by snodderly; 02/18/03 06:00 PM.
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