Quoting sage: I think that the DB principles must apply regardless of the situation -- right? In other words, have you put goals in place? And, what are you doing differently when you DON'T feel this pain and longing for the OM? What is your H doing differently? How can you focus on what works??? I suspect that sometimes you'll just have to act "as if", too. I can see/hear that you are already doing that.
--Sage
thanks sage ~ I am really trying to use DB principals, although they are seriously lacking for people in my sitch. I have not set goals yet, I was just eyeballing that post this morning and need to follow up. Keeping busy and positive helps me NOT think of the OM. But just like negativity, positivity cycles too. My H said "It's okay" in response to my EOM. That's definitely different and yeah - that's working... I just hope TIME heals me.
