On the outs of an EA and I'm down

[sage]

johnnyu... i'm having a really hard time today. i know that leaving my electronic other man had to be done. i couldn't focus on my M with the emotional crutch EOM has so willingly provided.

still, it is SO hard. i find myself sending cryptic messages on message boards, just hoping he'll pick them up so that he knows I haven't stopped feeling for him. i find myself checking the weather in his hometown.

everytime I hug my H, i think of the EOM...


I'm aching for him.


If there's anyone out there with some sympathy, or perhaps a gentle smack in the face... I could use it.... I'm a hurting pup...

.......

thanks

Charcoal -- This was unbelievably hard for me to read...'cause I focused on my own sitch...

I realize now, though, how much you are hurting too -- I hope that you can find some comfort here.

I think that the DB principles must apply regardless of the situation -- right? In other words, have you put goals in place? And, what are you doing differently when you DON'T feel this pain and longing for the OM? What is your H doing differently? How can you focus on what works??? I suspect that sometimes you'll just have to act "as if", too. I can see/hear that you are already doing that.

--Sage