well, the decision is to stay with W. I didnt even know what mlc was until last summer. Oh, I'm not hiding behind it, and yes I agree, I am intentionally sending this lady mixed messages and right now feel quite comfortable cutting it completely. As I say the infatuation stage is over, andI think I passed the moral test of sleeping with her by leaving that one summer night before it got worse. SO, thanks for your bluntness. I'm a heardhead and a guy who wants to get on with his life.