I'm sorry. I shouldn't have been so harsh with you. I do have a lot of sympathy for you regarding your W and her actions, just not regarding OW. I do understand how the emotional attachment came about, but you have to choose either your M or the OW. You can't have her on the fringes and expect to have any energy or desire to save your M.
You shouldn't have to stand for emotional abuse. That is what W is dishing out. It doesn't matter what she is angry about, that is too long to harp on anything. If she keeps that up, perhaps you should move out into the trailer. Make sure she knows why, but keep OW out of the equation. I'm sure that is bringing on a lot of W's anger. I know when H still lived here and was having an EA, I felt like killing him. Certainly didn't like him any. As you know, being hurt can bring anger on.
Perhaps you mentioned this before and I missed it, but would W go to counseling with you? If not, would it be of some value for you to go alone?
I certainly see why you are unhappy. You shouldn't have to just "suck it up" and be verbally slammed by W. Just think things will go more smoothly if OW is not in the picture. It also seems like she might turn out to act like W in the long run. Think about it, she was getting on your case about not having lunch with her. Not a good sign.
