I have taken that very approach on my W with going dorment when she's unruly and even so, still ask "what can I do to help?" even when she is a tad unruly. I found helping her out doesnt make things simmer down faster but it defintely makes things simmer down further and longer when they do finally simmer down. The walking away approach works but isn't very togetherness-promoting. I had told her the other day she is more married to her mother than to me. Her mom needs attention defintely but gets the red carpet treatment versus me and the "oh, find somthing in the frig for yourself, mom and I are having this " approach. She is no-doubt stressed to the max and I told her the other day I'd love to just let her have a week vacation from it all if she wants it. A vacation for her is a vacation for us all unless she wants me to go along. As far as ow is concerned,well, she's back out of my building in another week or so and it will once again be very easy to avoid her entirely and with the new season coming up, I'll certainly want to get into my hobbies and things on top of the home situation. Last year I did next to nothing on my leisure activites over mlc stuff and this ow stuff. I am sooo looking forward to happy living.
