You have been strong but I think your strength is in GAL and NOT giving him the attention he needs to thrive in HIS way. You seem to be at your most powerful, (for you that is), when you let your H's attitude and comments wash over you and don't rise to the bait.
I know it's hard when we comment and we are not the ones at the end of his communications, but Chicki, if you read back over the thread you will be able to see when you have had the advantage.
Remember to look long term and at the outcomes. Do you want him back? - I would presume not in his current state of mind. But presumably you did want him back at some point or you wouldn't be here. Have those reasons completely gone out the door? Do you still have love in yourself for him? Is he capable of controlling his anger and becoming the person you want to be with again? Are you pushing him to see just how far he will go?
Sit and think about what it is YOU want as your end result for YOU and your children.
You are one strong lady and you have hit his buttons in a constructive way before. Do that again - don't let HIM become so mad that it's destructive - and whatever you do LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN. Your H sounds like he cld be real mean.
Keep in touch.
Thinking of you loads
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
