New Theory

[RedHeadWife]

I've been thinking about the whole lack o' sex issue in a lot of our sitch's. I started thinking about it today, as I am still being pursued via email by this OM, who is a friend of H's. Anyway, what is it that is so exciting about someone "new" finding you attractive, etc.

I started thinking, you know, maybe it's just that after awhile in our M's, our spouse is there 24/7. They know absolutely everything about us. They see us first thing in the morning w/ no makeup and our hair standing on end. They've seen us at our worst and our best. After awhile, maybe we start seeing our H or W as more of our best friend than our lover and that is when the frequency of sex goes down. I'm not saying that having a H or W who is your best friend as well as your lover is not a good thing, it is a good thing, however, maybe this is another reason that sex tends to dwindle after awhile in a M. Since most people don't realize that it takes true EFFORT to keep excitement going, things just go downhill from there.

I don't know, like I said, just throwing some more ideas out there besides the whole "mom" thing. Thinking of other reasons why sex becomes such a non-issue in some M's.

And, no, I am not going to do anything stupid w/ this OM!! I've worked too hard to save my M to do that.