"Keep faking it until you make it" and he may appear happy but you'll find out he is not. He will crash and there will be times in the future that you feel a lot better and he realizes what a mess he has made of things and feel like crap.
How long have you been seperated? You must be in the Boston area.
I know he's had moments when he is not happy, I've seen them, but somehow this seems different...he seems genuinely happy/relieved. and maybe he is. but maybe there is still a part of him that isn't.
we've been separated for about a month now. I asked him to move out so I could do some work on myself (I've been in counseling since I found out he was having an affair back in march) and so he could gain some clarity as to what he really wants (says he's in love with her, not with me, but isn't ready to end things with me). we set up groundrules, agreed to them, even though he wasn't happy about moving out. he ignored all the things we set up...I found out the affair has never really ended.
he's so taken by the OW, so bowled over by her. He especially loves that she gets a lot of attention from men when they go out. it all just hurts so much, I'm still partially in shock.
anyway, it just sucks. and I hope part of him is affected. I hope its all not just sunshine and roses for him. It feels like I'm the one stuck with all the crap.
and yeah, I am from the boston area. lots to do to keep busy, but hard to meet new people.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
