Stillme & the Plan

[Gone Dancin']

Hey still,

Whatever the motivation to not file might be, the fact that he hasn't is still a plus. I commend you on not letting your emotions get the best of you here and decide to file yourself (like I did -- and am so regretting now). The longer the process takes and the more you can stall it, the better your chances are. As you know, time is on your side.

Friend-A (remember: a Civillian, lol) told me I just needed to "stop trying" and give up, and think only of me. I was trying to explain the Mysterious GALing vs out-and-out Dating, and she said it was too "manipulative".

I agree that Friend-A means well, but doesn't understand that you need support for the decision YOU'VE made to continue to fight for you M. It isn't anyone else's choice but yours on where you go from here. And yes, mysterious GALing may be "manipulative", but like Michele says, we manipulate ALL the time and everyday to get people to do what we'd like them to do. Manipulation has taken on a negative connotation, but that isn't to say that all manipulation is bad. If you're not hurting someone in your efforts, then how can it be considered bad? Don't let this opinion steer you in a new direction if you don't want to go that way (and I know you won't).

If H had not already had some sort of A (I was betting on a ONS last yr tho - which may or may not still hold true), he was bound to. I knew it; C told me he was looking for it.

This is interesting. At what point to C say this to you (meaning where in the R/M were you?) and what made C believe this was the case?

Bleh, talking is not helping.

You don't think so? I think getting this stuff out, esp with those of us who can relate to you (unlike the Civilians!) is a healthy and therapeutic thing. It might make you think about it more, but bottling it up and/or only discussing it with the Civilians isn't good IMO. You're venting, and you've got to do that somewhere, right?

And I'm sorry I keep missing the late-night talk-fests going on around here. I feel so out-of-the-loop.

Don't be sorry. When you find time we'll be here! You're definitely not out of the loop -- we think about you and refer to you everyday!

Pro wakeboarder, eh? First a 21 yr old, now a stud wakeboarder -- you must be one hot commodity! The market will definitely have its hands full if you ever end up in it!

GD