The door is almost completely shut. As much as I can be, I am ready for the D, so I can move on with my life. Like BeingMe said, I don't want a confused man back. He has so much fixing to do with himself. I think the best thing for me is to move on. The door is barely cracked, but I am not opening it for this guy, maybe a new, improved version of my H but definately not this lying, cheating guy.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Sounds like you've got it figured out, no-longer-Hopeless.
This is so much easier to deal with as a business transaction, rather than an LRT. It's not about love or regaining trust or a future friendship--its a contract. Which is why you don't go over it with him, you go over it with your lawyer.
Hope, My feelings exactly. The more I think about my H more & more I am becoming disgusted with him. My love tank is only empting.
This morning I sent him an email & I know he will not respond to it. This is it: I was thinking that we realy need to get this D moving quickly before the agreement papers expire or something. I know you said you weren't completely sold on this deal w/ her,but if you have to make it work you can. I see it must be working why else take her to exotic places like the islands & now your probably thinking about taking her to Mexico if your job send you (that is if it really is for work). That is BIG that you took her to the race also. (he claimed he had the extra ticket & no one else to take)This is howmuch Ow does not let him out of her sight!! AND H is getting soo tired of it!! He even told the girls when they interrupted in our convo about that D7 said daddy, mommy lets you go anywhere by yourself, H- yeah I know thats why I 'm moving back...
I know the sooner we finish, the sooner you can make it official w/ her. Isn't that what you want? I want you to be happy really. You two r moving right along and so quickly, it must be right? In time she will soon have your baby!!
Think on this. I will need the original papers from you & I will pay to file. I dont' know if I can file w/ only the copies.
Chicki, I've thought about sending an email like that to H, just never did. The vacation thing really bothers me too. My H went to Vegas with OW. I have never been there and we always talked about going. It sucks that our H's don't have a care in the world about anyone but themselves. They are living with whatever feels the best in the moment.
My love for my H is decreasing everyday too. I am starting to wonder if I really love him anymore. He is a terrible man. He has treated me worse than he treated his worst enemy. He's broken, heartless, selfish, narcissistic....the list goes on and on. I really think that I just want out of this anymore. I gave him 8 months to figure it out, and all he did was hurt our relationship more and dig himself deeper. I hope I get the D papers this weekend (I never thought I would be saying that), but enough is enough and the new me doesn't want anything to do with this guy.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I could have written what you have...really really was disgusted with my H and after so long of time went by I really couldn't see how he could possibly "change back" to the man I loved...
He did...not as quickly as he left but he did...it took time...nearly 2 years...and it was nearly 3 years before I heard him verbally express his love to me again...
My situation is different in that I had a long history with him and 3 really wonderful kids...things might have been different without kids...my strength really came from them a lot...
Take care...hope your weekend is good...and you get to do something you like....we are going snorkeling tomorrow!
