I know that there are times when I think I can't do any of this anymore. What keeps me going are my D's and that he was my best friend. All this is insane and it sux. Only you can decide when enough is enough for you. Personally, I've got time to give this. This is the man I didn't want to live without (and I still don't)so I work this with everything I've got. Ultimately, I know I am the one to be found......and cherished.
Is it possible that his dumping all his crap on you was his way of venting? Do you think he's pulling your leg with reconnecting or has ulterior motives? That he wants to do these things with you (bike rides and bowling)sound like positives to me. I understand how hard it is though. My H and I dance together and sometimes it is so impossibly difficult. Just take time to do some soul searching into what you really want.