Fade To Black

[stillme]

First, I'm sorry about the R-strain btwn S16 & W. It's easy to say "That's not your problem. It's something W needs to work on w/S" but, of course, being loving, caring parents who hate to see our children hurt and confused, you are doing a great job of being there for him & supporting W's confusion as well. Since you can talk to W, tho, I would prolly keep her advised of the sitch (re: S) & your approach w/him & (maybe?) encourage some alone-time for them if W is reluctant/hurt and cannot/willnot be the first to step up (and, o/c, S - being 16 & so vulnerable) is not & should not be expected to be the strong one & do it. Just my thought as a mom.

Second, tho, I'm applauding your approach w/W re: the S & her comments about maybe/possibly/wondering if it would 'work' if she 'came back'. You are so much stronger than the C_K of Before, and she o/c sees this. I believe only a strong person can support a Proper M (the way it's SUPPOSED TO be) & your standing for that (as opposed to being willing to open your arms, forget all about 'it', and try to go on as before) not only shows your strength, but your willingness and desire to love W & have a M the way in which not only SHE - but YOU as well! - deserve.

Keep it up.
j