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[faithisbelieving]

tyler...I agree with frank_D....I am arriving at a similar place right now. I'm beginning to see that there may have to be a decision to stand firm yet still not push her out the door. I also stand with frank_D on the issue of not tolerating this OW PA stuff. I've told my W in no uncertain terms that if another EA/PA starts during this period, it is an "immediate dealbreaker".

Tyler, remember these:

I do not sell out who I am to placate others.

Some men learn that no matter how hard they try, their wives cannot or will not participate in improving the relationship, whether it's forgiving their men, seeking out individual counseling or following through on suggestions received in marriage therapy. Sometimes, the right choice is to end the relationship.

But, if leaving is the decision, is it critical for me to know that they had done their absolute best; that they had succeeded in making personal changes and can honestly say that they had been the men they wanted to be in their relationships. This can be a very difficult task.

WARNING!
Your children are watching your every move. Their beliefs and futures are being molded by the choices you make. Your sons will grow up to be men like you. Your duaghters will marry men like you. That's why, as a father, being the man you want to be is the most important legacy you will leave to your children.

We were both in the 'Inspirational Column' at one point tyler. Just stop everything you are doing.....think....N.U.T.S. even says to 'take a time out'.

Do NOT tolerate the OW. I would not.
Set your boundaries.
I agree...don't permit her to do things in front of you or the kids.

Tyler...you really have fought the good fight. Know this. This entire site would NOT have put you up in that column unless you had done right.

This is NOT about you tyler.
I support you. Just keep strong. Be the man you want to be.

FIB