Interesting how bad behavior in the man was automatically corrected and he became more desireable just by you being HD (exactly as Dr. Laura predicts). And people tell me this does not work.
I don't think you get what I'm saying. First off, I should probably make it clear that I don't come off as blatantly sexual in real life. Even if I'm wearing a tight red t-shirt within 2 minutes of interacting with me most people would probably guess that my profession is something like kindergarten librarian. I use big words, smile a lot and I am generally dorky and well-mannered. When I make the effort to bring my sexuality to the surface, I would say that the immediate reaction that I have gotten from men is that they "blink" because it's like the kindergarten librarian is reading aloud from a book and just said the word "c*ck" or "f*ck". This was true even when I was a 14 year old girl playing strip poker at the fort.
I very much like it when the men I date act "nice" and gentlemanly (they all do), who wouldn't? It just doesn't signal sexuality to me. However, I am often tempted to let myself be "played" in this manner just to not rock the boat. My thought might be along the lines of "Maybe I should let him think that I am agreeing to have sex with him because he brought me flowers rather than because I think he has strong hands." The reason I would have this thought is because I am aware that many men have the tendency to lump women into two categories- women who are sexually motivated by romance/good deeds or women who are sexually motivated by money. The women who are sexually motivated by sex category is reserved for a few insane nymphomaniacs and those so desperate for affection that they'll trade sex for hugs. So I am tempted to fake like I am sexually motivated by romance in order to not be seen as an insane emotionally-desperate whore. However, I refuse to do this. I gotta be me. So I either have to find the kind of guy who has the experience/knowledge that women like me exist like NOP suggested OR I have to be really good at communicating who I am and what makes me tick to men. Pretty much I'm shooting for something in the middle at the moment.
My point is that the man who acts nice in order to get sex sometimes won't act nice if he can get sex without the nice behavior. The man who knows that nice behavior isn't what will get him really hot sex is free to act nice for other reasons. So a woman as HD as me has to have boundaries that basically honestly state "Nice behavior isn't what turns me on but not-nice behavior will send me out of f*cking distance from you."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
