Nice Guys are notoriously slow learners ... Their inclination is to hang on to belief systems that have proven to be consistently unworkable, yet are so embedded in their unconscious mind that to challenge them is tantamount to heresy. It is difficult for Nice Guys to consider doing something different, even when what they are doing isn't working.

Cemar: I understand that I can not use Dr. Laura's book. What I am pointing out is that she is spot on with regards to men (HD) and how they work.

Cemar, You seem to hold on to Dr. Laura's concept with hope that someday your wife will magically take her advice to heart and you believe that IF she would then everything would be okay. You keep ignoring your own culpability in this issue.

This is why I am so excited for Hairdog. He actually has something he can work on for himself. This does not mean that he does not want his relationship to change and it certainly does not mean his wife doesn't have her own issues. What it means is he can now focus on something that WILL make him a happier person. What will be interesting to hear is if his wife eventually notices a shift in his behavior and their interactions. AGAIN he is not changing in order to MAKE her change. He is changing to be a better person and then as a side benefit their interactions should change.

Anyway, I really thought you were getting somewhere in our "conversation." Could you go back and answer the questions in my last post to you about your relationship with your wife?

Thanks



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus